Andrea loves to write about the zodiac and love compatibility. She's been an online writer for over five years. The Internet proves millions of us are constantly left wondering if our old flame will return. We see it in movies and television, and I've heard personal accounts many a time of exes not really wanting to let their honey go. It all depends on what is going through the man's psyche. Sometimes we don't know what we have lost until it happens, or we downright miss someone and accepting the loss drives us crazy. Conversely, there are plenty of men out there wondering the same thing:
They will stop responding to your texts and then start texting you randomly. Read more about texting an ex here. This behavior simply means that they are confused about their feelings for you. Their heart is still in love with you but they are trying to convince themselves that they should stay broken up. They miss you and want to spend time with you, but they are stopping themselves because they think you are not good for them.
If you respond to their unstable behavior, you are showing a sign of neediness. If they become cold, you become cold. However, you should be very careful about what you say to them when they call you or text you when they are drunk. It could be that they confess their love to you when they are drunk and they become completely cold the next day.
Any drunken calls from your ex should be received with caution. Do not talk about YOUR feelings when they are drunk. Do not confess your love to them when they are drunk. This is perhaps the most effective way to win your ex back for good. During this no contact period if your ex contacts you, then you can be sure that they are thinking about you and they still have feelings for you.
Talking to them is going to defeat the purpose of no contact. You need to prove to yourself that you can survive without your ex for at least 30 days.
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They will start realizing that you are not a needy person and that you are not available for them whenever they need you.
Trust me, you are going to become more attractive in their mind by not answering them. You can still contact them after no contact is over. But until then, you need to stay strong. Scroll down to read the comments. Before commenting, read commenting guidelines. Hi Coaches, my ex boyfriend was taking me for granted and mistreating me and he is the one who broke up with me and since i told him that i wont be able to forgive him anymore and i have tried a lot to make this relationship to work and i will not going to do anything further and i did no contact for almost 5 weeks in which he did not reach out to me he was just viewing my stories and not all of them How you resolve those feelings and allow yourself to let go of the negative memories is entirely up to you, but since you feel this way, I would advise you to at least carefully consider if you truly want him back and if you'd really be able to forgive him completely.
Me and my ex would have been 3 years in February. We had been engaged for 6 months. We have had a rocky relationship ship but the last few months it had been getting better. What does this mean?
Honestly, I don't know for certain what was going through your ex's mind because whatever you're telling me doesn't quite logic up. I suggest getting an answer from him directly so that you know for certain what exactly happened to make him turn on you. My ex and I have been in no contact for a month. We ended well - with respect. And today, he msged my friend to ask how I was doing. And he replied with a thumbs up.
Remain in no contact? Since it has been a month, you could consider reaching out if you're ready, considering that he has started thinking about you recently which would mean that he should respond positively to you at the very least. Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me a month ago, the first two weeks after the break up we can still meet up and chat in person and the atmosphere was great and he also said he likes it that way.
He told me that he hope one day we can get back together and by then when we are both better and stronger, the relationship can definitely be tighter and stronger and if he want's to get married one day, that girl will be me.
But after a few weeks he suddenly changed his mind and told me that he thinks he will never get back to me again, I asked him the reason and he said because he knows that the hope of us getting back together is torturing me and it hurts him a lot to see me in pain and he wants me to move on to find a better person. I don't know what to believe right now because I know deep in my heart that he still loves me even tho he said he had no feelings for me anymore, and he wasn't happy in the later stage of our relationship.
I really really want him back because he's everything I've ever wanted and we both said that we were meant to be when we were still together. I'm in the NC stage now for just about a week with him and it's a mutual decision, we both thought that it's a great idea to give both sides the time and space we need. But I'm just really afraid that I'm going to lose him forever as every one of his best friends has told me that he's moved on and asked me to move on with my life too.
What should I do now? He was probably right because by remaining in contact with an ex after a breakup, you end up getting hopeful and start building up expectations towards reconciliation, which may or may not happen anytime soon.
You won't be able to let go and simply work on yourself because you'll be too fixated on that most of the time and in emotional pain whenever it doesn't go your way. This would also end up causing him to feel pressured to act a certain way towards you so as to not hurt you, and he may not feel like it's something he wants to put you through. The best way to go about this is to initiate a clean slate and in order to do that, it would be better if you guys stopped talking for awhile and give each other some space.
Myself and my gf was in love for 6 years and always i use to leave her just like that and come back to her always and she use to wait for me all the time and we were happy eventhough. And before 3 months i broke up with her and said her to delete the pics and block me and i wil block her i said to her and she was crying badly but still i left her and i was waiting to talk to after two months on her birthday but on wishing her she said she is in love with a new guy.
And i was tottaly broken. And then she was also crying and then we spoke and she said she want time to come out of from this and everything will be okay. Even my brother and mom convinced her but still she is asking for time and i was badly hurt and come out of it so was kept talking to her and she said to give time for atleast 4months but i kept talking and before 2 days she said we can meet after 6 years and u should study now and get a job and come to me i will marrry you right back there and i said her that everything will change in 6 years then how come she said she has decided so this is her decision and i asked her to meet her in this december she said okay we will meet once and that will the last meeting.
And what should i suppose to do? Will she come back to me??? It just sounds like she needs time right now, and you wants you to focus on your own life first. I would suggest you respect her wishes and give her the space she needs for now before reaching out again at a later date. I exchanged some texts with my ex yesterday after a month of NC. Very light-hearted and just asked her simple questions about her and how everything was going.
Maybe message each total. We were each responding fairly quickly to each other. I asked her about something she did for work and if she was happy with it, just keeping the conversation going. She did not respond and that was almost 24 hours ago. She is always on her phone and I know she saw it. What could the problem be here? It could be that she forgot to reply, or that she didn't bother to.
Regardless, give it another weeks of space before reaching out again to start a new conversational topic. I love him a lot, more than anything and just can't even think of getting over him. It would depend on whether you're able to comfortably switch the level of friendship with him to something more romantic in a subtle way.6 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back
At present, since the breakup was over a year ago but you still remained in constant contact with him, he may feel reluctant to make a sudden change to the status quo and get back together because it might seem risky to him. I cheated on my ex. Not physically but I was texting a girl some really graphic stuff. We broke up back in December. She said she wanted to try again back in March and we did for two months. Then she said she couldn't get over it. But a few months later and we're talking daily.
She has made the comment that she misses me and says she hates that she feels that way because of what had happened. She also said she still thinks about us having sex. However she has repeatedly said she would never get back together with me because she could never trust me again. But she texts me every day. And makes comments about how hot I am. I don't exactly know how to proceed. Her actions tell me she has feelings for me, but I don't know. I'm fairly confident she still has feelings for me.
But I don't know how to earn that trust back. Its been 10 months. It's not easy to regain trust from a person, especially after it has been broken but it's not impossible - just focus on rebuilding a connection with her and simply follow through on the things you say to earn her trust once more. My partner and I were together for six years. He basically broke up with me and abandoned me. When he broke up with me, he admitted he had cheated on me once and hid it.
I moved out quickly, and cut contact. We have tried several times to get back in touch with each other, but each time his mental health got worse and worse. He kept rebounding to other people and tried to keep me in the picture. I cut contact again. We have been broken up almost a year, and he keeps paying one of my bills. I had asked him a couple times in the past not to pay, and he would either say he was fine paying or that he would work on taking me off, but hasn't.
He manually has to pay for me every month. He's been doing this almost a year, and we haven't been in contact for a few months, now. I also know he is dating and living with someone new. Why is he continuing to pay my bill??! It could easily be just a way he keeps a little reminder of you, which is also why he still keeps trying to pull you back into his life.
Yes I think you still have a chance. You just have to prove to her that you're sincere about making these changes with your actions and perseverance to the task.
My wife and I were married almost seven years before she cheated on me and left. We have three kids together so we keep in contact for the most part. It's been just over four years since our seperation. A few years back I thought it would be funny to ask her to sent me some nudes.
Which she di, after claiming to not doing that ever. A little while later I again asked her. But she said no, but ended up sending them anyway.
She claims that she has never sent them to anyone else but me. Even though we have been separated for about four years now. I feel that it's her way of saying something but I'm not quite sure what.
Could be boredom, missing you, or her way of flirting. You could always reach out to reconnect further if you're interested in reconciliation. Start by catching up or perhaps asking her out to lunch. You've been together with her for 25 years, so there are definitely habits she finds hard to suppress even though she doesn't feel inclined to get back together.
I suggest instead of actively trying to pursue her right now, you give her some space instead and apply no contact. This at least gives her time to potentially realize how much she misses you and process her own emotions. By continuously talking to her, not only does she not process these thoughts, but the thoughts of never getting back together are reinforced each time she sees or hears from you.
Hi me and my partner of 8 years broke up a couple of weeks ago we have 3 children together she said that we dragged eachother down and the spark wasn't there but when I have the kids she has to try and argue with me She's taken off most of the gifts that I brought her she's put the pictures of us together in the bin and taken pictures of me and the kids off the wall and put them out of sight She messaged me and said part of her misses me, part of her don't and another bit saying she's just binned her soul mate I really don't understand what this means or where her head is at I'm so confused.
Usually, these situations are a compiled expression of her emotions that would have been building up for some time. You probably have to spend some time figuring out what went wrong in the relationship that caused her to lose feelings for you and give up on the relationship. Me and my Girlfriend have been broken up for a month and two weeks.
I barley text her today after no contact. We had been together for 4 years. She told me if you wanna make this work you have to move out. I wanna see you make big boy moves. With me moving out is that really gonna fix things? Take her advice here, and show her you're capable of being independent and have matured since breaking up. She probably felt that you had started taking her for granted, showed less affection, and became needier, which was why she suggested moving out in order to see your 'big boy moves'.
Hi, my name is Paul. Ive been in a 9 month long relationship with my ex before she broke things off. Im 26 and she is We have been in contact even after breaking up but sometimes there would be times where I would block her and then unblock her once my negative emotions have subsided. When I did it for the 3rd time I messaged her once i did unblock her.. She said i should have been firm in blocking her. I regret doing it and i apologized to her, that i was sorry for being indecisive and i want to preserve what we at least had but to no avail.
Did i screw it up? Right now, yes she probably is firm on the breakup and there isn't much you can do to convince her otherwise. You might want to give her space for now and go into NC, before reaching out to rebuild attraction and trust with her again and see if she's willing to start over then.
You can use this article for more guidelines on how to win her back. I must agree i made a big mistake because towards the end of the day i showed her how badly i still need her and i kinda begged her to give us a chance but we ran out of time still talking about it. Accept the condition of being friends for now if you still intend to win her back someday, otherwise, walk away from her altogether if you think you think staying friends with her would affect your happiness.
Although you've made mistakes, it seems that she still has feelings for you to some extent, but you HAVE to consider making some changes if you want to stand a chance and not make more mistakes down the road. Most importantly, you're going to have to learn to accept the breakup and be able to live without her. Otherwise, she's always going to feel that pressure from you, and would lose respect because she sees you as weak. My ex broke up with me in June.
His baby momma wanted to fight me because he moved on with me. I was the only woman he introduced to his child and she loved me. His family loved me as well. He told me he will always love me yet he has not made an effort to work it out with me. He recently told me people do stupid things for good reasons all the time when I asked him why he ended things with me.
Should I walk away for good? Sometimes, people take action or give up when they perceive it to be the best for everyone, but fail to take into consideration other parties and what they are willing to go through.
So my ex husband served me when our twins were 6months old, I wanted to work things out but he just told me to give him money so he could leave. We got in a lot of arguments because of money and his mom being so involved in our marriage. He kept me hanging on for about a year after he moved out, then his days off changed at work and he wanted to change our agreement that I have a modification for at work. He has always run away from stress and we had a lot of stress with deaths in the family, cancer in the family, car accident, new house marriage I had surgery then I got pregnant and it was a tough pregnancy.
So he came back and forth wanting to work things out. Fast forward a year of this two weeks ago he shows up with my kids and a new girl.
He refuses to give me a solid we r done for good. The verbal abuse continues. I am so upset I was not perfect I have said mean things but always caused from the name calling or some drama with ppl butting in and him never standing up for me or standing by me. Hi, my ex boyfriend and I broken up 2 days ago. The reason was because he had a lot of problems going on with his family and he wants cool off from our relationship. He says he still loves me but he doesnt want me to get involve with his problems.
I gave him what he wanted. But then yesterday was supposed to be our monthsary, so i tried to send him a message saying it hurts that he broken up with me and that we have not able to celebrate our monthsary. I also told him I wanted to wait for him to come back but I felt like he will not come back anymore, and that it will be more easy for me if he says he doesn't love me or doesn't want to continue our relationship anymore.
He read the message but didn't answer, i didn't receive a reply. During our relationship he keeps a lot of things from me, one is he has another facebook account where I discover he just broke up with his girlfriend 5 days after we became a couple. Opposed to what he told me that he was single for 2 years. And that it was the girl who broke up with him because of long distance relationship, but then again when I check the profile of the girl, it says that it was him who left.
I confront this with him and he change the story again, he told me that the girl cheated, thats why they broke up. This issue starts to give me doubts whether he's telling me the truth or not. But I love him very much that I'm willing to overlook this issues and forgive him of his shortcomings so he could stay. Right now I can't stop hoping that he will come back to me, but because of the issues I am doubting whether his reasons for the break up is only his way of leaving me.
I don't want him to know or see that I'm moving on because I want him to think that I'm waiting for him and he can always come back anytime. But what if he dont come back? Should I just stop hoping and move on? I love him very much. I think it would honestly be better to move on. Who knows if he has been lying to you the whole time and it would be hard to develop such a relationship over distrust and insecurities. Perhaps have a talk with him to find out what his intentions are, and whether he still wants the relationship.
There could be a chance that it started as a misunderstanding or because there was a certain issue, and by not addressing it and additionally playing the hot cold game, things have escalated to this extent.
Im from Philippines, 28 years old. My boyfriend is from Saudi Arabia, 44 years old. We had a huge fight last sunday because I caught him attended a Filipino gathering without me knowing it or should I say he really didn't want me to know.
We lived together for a year in Saudi when I was still there, I came to Philippines last May , our relationship was on and off coz of trust issue. He visited Philippines this year, March, he met my family and on his 6th day here, I caught him from his mobile that he cheated on me last year August he had this affair with another filipina and he admitted it, he said he paid for this woman to have sex with him and he said he honestly didn't like it.
But based on the messages he sent her, I dont know if im going to believe him. That issue is already finished, he begged for my forgiveness and promised me he will never do that again.
Until last sunday, I saw photos from a facebook friend and I was surprised to saw him on that party. He's always telling me that he's busy but he didn't even bother to tell me he's attending that Filipino gathering coz he already knows what's gonna be my reaction, and he also reason out that to me, that I would have gone crazy again if he tells me.
I got mad, and he didn't talk to me the whole day. He calls me after that, saying he need a break. That I will never change. That I dont have the rights to control him whether he wants to go out with his guy friends and also girls. He also told me to wake up, that maybe one day something might happen, that he might get married again coz he's divorced from last year And all he wants to happen is for me to have a career that's why he bought my own working visa in Bahrain which is only 30minutes drive from his place in Saudi.
I begged for him not to leave me but he said he couldn't answer it now. I asked him if he still loves me, he said yes. Now I dont know what to do. Should I cut contacts with him or what. He just called me last night, but just to ask how are my kids and parents doing. It was only 2 minutes call. Please help me to get him back. I know you want him back, but you also need to focus on being independent and working on your goals in the meantime since these things are important to him.
You also have to learn that it's not healthy to react this way whenever you find out he attends events since it comes across as weak and paints a picture in his head that 'you're always going to be like this' or that he can't tell you things due to your reaction.
My ex was a girl who plays with men's feeling to have revenge on how she was dumped by her ex before. I was suppose to be 1 of her victim but she fall in love with me and she changed. But i somehow broke her heart because i say something so hurtful for her and kinda dump her 1 night.. But we still do contact each other almost everyday and spend times together after that and she do say that she still love me a bit but she want to be single for now.
And i still trying to get her back and i never leave her. So , after about a month after the breakup , i contact 1 of her ex that was her victim , so i ask him about her , so this guy tell me how mess up their relationship was and he know that he was just being used , she never care about them even tho that guy was so nice to her , he never being mad to her.. And this guy said that if she not chatting with him , she will chats with other guy cheating. Which is very different with me , we had a lot of fights even before we are officially dating and she do care about us.
And she do reply my feelings. So, i remembered back then she do tell me that after she know and talks with me , she changed. And she only talk with me right now. So , i act know a guy whom she used to chat a lot which was suppose to be her victim also , so i asked this guy to read their chat , and unexpectedly , this guy was very cool to give me his fb , so , i read their chats and im suprised to see that she really stop chatting with this guy suddenly , and that was the time that she started to like me and she said she dont chat with other guy anymore.
But i was an asshole , i used this guy fb to try to bait her because i am such a curious person and i have doubts issues , but she act knows that it was me and she got very mad with me , saying i am a coward and else.
We fights again and she told me about her past , she admit she was playing with men's feeling before because of revenge. Right now , she still spending time with me , but i know she is very dissapointed with me right now , We are still not back in relationship and i dont know if she do still love me right now. If she's still spending time with you, then use this time to gain her trust back and to help her see that arguments in a relationship are common but just because the relationship isn't perfect, doesn't mean you should walk away anytime something goes wrong.
I instantly regretted it and after a month I decided to go to her house as she had blocked me on phone and social media A couple of days later I received a phone call from the police asking me to refrain from contacting her at her request So my question is Also if I do no contact, how long for and how do I contact her again after?
It could probably be the impulsiveness to jump into a new relationship or a rebound that has given her the illusion that she's moved on from the breakup with you, but if the relationship you shared with her was a long and meaningful one, the past would probably catch up to her eventually since she has not actually dealt with the emotions from the previous breakup.
In the meantime I suggest moving on and focusing on yourself since she is clearly not ready to face you and may even feel negatively towards you hence the police call.
We dated 6 years, lived together 2 years. Due to stupid stuff in my family the last year I got depressed, overweight, passive, in short, wasn't a man and didn't make her feel as a woman.
She broke it off, and the following weeks while she was moving out, I did everything wrong, crying, pleading, begging, she straight out said ahe lost all respect for me, and she was right to do so. After she moved out, I started reading what to actually do, so I started NC, the first month through mutual friends I heard she already started dating someone, it hurt, but I made no big deal of it.
After 40 days I bumped into her on the street, she clearly wasn't ready to talk to me, aside from a forced 'hi', luckily I kept my cool.
After 3 months, I tried reaching out, as outlined here, no response. Now, honestly, she is one of the most stubborn people I know, so this didn't surprise me, I understood that for this to work with her, I would have to have patience. Now after 6 months of NC, some of her mail was still coming to my place, contacting her though her friends she has blocked me everywhere and the postal office didn't worked, so I went over to her place to give her her mail and politely ask to change her adress.
At this point I knew that she was already dating the same guy for 5 months and were moving in together expensive city, so it happens alot, not a big thing, though it still hurts. During this 6 months though, I have lost 70 pounds and gotten healthy, stopped smoking, drinking, gaming. Got new clothes, a new car even a new job, I was different, and I was happy, even without her, even though I miss her terribly and want her back.
I'm even dating someone, but casually. Anyway, she was not happy to see me, or it seemed like she actually was but was putting on a very nasty facade. I kept calm, confident and even got a few laughs out of her during this shirt encounter, but everytime she caught herself laighing she quickly resumed her stern and angry facade, stating we are over, never contact her again, she has moved on.
Anyway, I didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable so left soon. Now, I see it as, she still needs time to cool down, her angry facade will stay for a while. It is truly possible that she moved on and never wants me again and part of me accepts it already. What would be the best course of action here? Completely let her go, maybe she will contact me in a few months, maybe a year. And if at that point we are both single, see if anything is left?
If not, try and get over it and move on? Or is there something to be done here? Because honestly, she is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with and if she would spend time with me, even as friends she would experience the new me, but this is an impossibility right now. Personally, I wouldn't recommend waiting on her to have a change of heart since you never know how long that is going to take. Never let your past dictate your future, and this is one of those cases where you should consider simply moving on and letting go.
If fate happens to present an opportunity down the road where both of you are single and you still have feelings for her at that time, then consider your options then. For the time being though, simply focus on making yourself happy and becoming the best person you can be.
And she did claim she was speaking to someone, which is fair enough. Anyway on the night out she tried to be friends with my mates GF which is odd, and then later on that night she then went and unblocked my best friend and his girlfriend on social media and started to follow them both, I found that very odd.
She has since unblocked me which again is strange. Her actions could probably mean that seeing your best friend's girlfriend reminded her of you, which brought about both good and bad memories at the same time, resulting in her speaking ill about you to them, but at the same time unblocking you off social media. She may also have told your best friend's girlfriend about her seeing someone else because she knows the message will get relayed back to you eventually and it might be a way of 'showing off' that she's doing okay after the breakup.
If you feel that she may be receptive towards you again, you could always try reaching out sometime soon, but I would personally recommend waiting it out to see what she does first. How long would you look to wait? My 30 days ends on the 26th, if I looked to make contact then that would have been over a week since the discussion between the two took place.
How long would you look to leave it before responding? Contacting her once NC ends sounds like a relatively good time, given the circumstances.
If she responds positively, then continue with the conversations but if she doesn't, go back into no contact again since it was probably too soon still.
It means a lot. I can't believe in the fact that we act like strangers now I wish you all the best in everything that you'll undertake throughout your life. And i sincerely miss you a lot, maybe i need you by my side as a friend to feel stronger.
But anyway if you're happy the way we are now I'm happy too. I won't be too long Always be the amazing human that you are and never ever look at your past to be honest if i could change our past I'll definitely do it I miss you my friend more than you think.
Well it would indicate that she's definitely thinking of you and misses you in some form, but it doesn't necessarily mean she wants to get back together. It could simply just be those 'late night thoughts' where she thinks back to the relationship with you. A girl used to stalk me alot and someone introduced me to her.
We came in a relationship and it was my first relationship not her. I am 23 and she is We discussed about each other in our families and we were having a great time. I used to ger hyper when she used to annoy me.
She used to talk about breakups and then nect minute she used to say sorry and I always took her in arms. But I know she still But kindly tell me how to ger her back. She has removed me from fb blocked me on mobile. How can I get her back? She gets angry and hyper when I text or call her. Yes I have promise myself to change my negative attitude with her. But she is not accepting my apology. Perhaps give her some time for now to cool off, especially if the incident that led to the breakup only happened recently.
You could apply the No Contact Rule for now, and try to initiate an apology and conversation again after the NC period, which should have given her plenty of time to cool off. Hi, I need an advice my ex boyfriend been sending me messages on Facebook we haven't talked for about 5 years. I answered a couple of his messeges and he was telling me about his struggles and about his ex girlfriend that did him wrong.
And he will ask me if I still have feeling for And and I will tell him no, because I moved on I have a family.
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He will tell me to leave my boyfriend for him but to be honest I do have feelings for him but just as friends. He will tell me to hang out but it's weird hanging out with your ex boyfriend or is it okay? If you are currently in a relationship and have a family, it would be best to do right by your family and not take the risk of exploring a situation of what could ruin it on the off chance your feelings are sparked again, especially if your relationship has lasted awhile and you may be feeling 'bored' with it due to the lack of excitement.
I dated my ex for 1 year. He was very very into me the whole time. I never questioned his interest. Marriage has been mentioned on his end. Stuff was great then aspects of It got very unhealthy.
He still showed the same interest though. But eventually we took a break for about a month and when we came back together everything was better and he had changed a lot in many ways. Shortly after he was posting snapchats with a new girl. Of corse that situation hurt me so bad i lashed out and i somewhat regret showing my feelings.
This is confusing for me and i have poured my heart out time after time telling him this is nothing like us. He could potentially still be feeling upset at the breakup, and might have even let his thoughts run wild from overthinking which causes him to react in a hot and cold manner. The other girl may not be someone he likes or has feelings for but it definitely is aimed at filling his time right now instead of having to deal with the breakup instead.
Broke up with my Girlfriend of 3 years at the end of December, did not really communicate with her much for about two months even though I missed her the whole time. We started briefly taking again in February and since then have been communicating almost everyday, I found out in March that she started talking to another guy which driven me nuts because I still deeply love her and want to get back together.
She decided to commit but that only lasted like a week and then they got into it and she decided to come on a trip with me. I want to not be available for her to let her realize what she is losing but I love her too much not to be there for her when she reaches out.
She says that I really hurt her when I left and she never expected that I would ever leave, I feel so guilty for not being more patient with my decision. Perhaps instead of fretting and giving her any further issues with her decision, use that time whenever it is spent in contact with her to remind her why she loves you through positive and sweet actions.
This would improve your chances and position as she holds on less to the past memories, and let the other guy self-destruct on his own accord through his insecurities and problems he gives her. My ex girlfriend broke up with me and got into a rebound relationship the next day. She claims they have not had sex yet but i doubt it. She convinced me and said yes. We had sex that night. They work close to eachother so often meet up for drinks after work And this is why I got a gut feeling.
Today he snapchatted a photo of a photo of them two from when they were young, a photo ive never seen before and felt sick to my stomach as I almost felt like it confirmed my gut feeling hes probably at her house when they found it not sure if im being paranoid but obviously feeling extremely hurt and lost right now. So my ex girlfreind of 3. Is now in a new relationship.
She wrote me a letter telling me she is setting me free. After reading it I gave it back to her saying that I did not accept it. We have been split for about 10 months now. But because of where we work. I see her at least once every 2 weeks sometimes more. Her face lights up when sees me and always ask me for a hug and they are pretty great. She also told me one night over coffee that she was in a new relationship. She cried so much when she told me this.
But she also told me how she missed so many things about me. And misses making love to me. In the past 2 weeks we have seen each other almost every couple days. We have hugged immensely. She has even lied on top of me kissing me and then things start getting hot. To the point that it gets stopped because she says she does not want me to think she is that type of cheating woman.
She has never stopped telling me she loved me. The last 2 weeKS feels like the intensity of our love for each other has grown even deeper. She was in an emotional state when we were together as she ended her last relationship and we were together right after.
Her ex has made it extremely hard on her and so goes the emotional roller coaster. She has also told me that the other guy sure doesn t kiss like me.
These are things I don t want to here. She has told me that she does not love him. And also that she is working on herself. Because of this break up. We both have learned lots and have grown to a different level of inner peace. The break up was actually a good thing. When she set me free. I never got mad. I was calm and told her that she needed to do what she needed to be happy. Her response to mine was that.
She never thought I d say anything like that. She has also told me how she sees me in a very different light in a very big way. As we both have changed for the better. Anyways,my mind heart and soul are like in limbo.
I was doing very well before she sort of pop in 3 weeks ago. I m trying to go back on the path. I was on and let her be. Any takers on advise. Sometimes it s good to here a perspective from someone you Don t know. Okay so me and my ex were together for two and a half years. We just broke up a month ago and we are trying to co-parent our two year old son.
He is now in a new relationship with an old ex. There were together 5 or 6 years ago. He hid it but I found out. He says he soesnt want to be with me and that I am annoying. Our whole relationship we supported eachother and were like bestfriends.
Now he is being a dick towards me. We both cheated under different terms so we mutually agreed to break up. Hes my sons father and I want to fix things so that we can be a family again, but he wont budge.
He told me that I was annoying. My ex and I were in a relationship for 3 years. He had been with a few other girls prior to us but they all just wanted him for sex. With us we were each others first real relationship.
Well just days after we broke up he started seeing a new girl who is the total opposite of me. Is it possible to get him back. I was with my ex for 15 years. We had a problems and he moved out. We continued to being exclusive for about 6 month. Then i get a message saying we need to talk. It turned out he had been with a woman half his age.
She works with him and is bi-sexual. They have been together for a year now.
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What does this say. I still love him and forgave him long ago. Up until then he i would never have believed he would do this too me. Could it be a rebound or possibly a midlife crisis? Mine did the exact same thing after 14 years. To be fair our relationship was on the rocks anyway but instead of discussing it and trying to fix things for our childrens sake he cheated and lied about it. Truth is no matter what the reason he is not worth it.
Concentrate on moving forward without him and in time you will be far happier than you were when you were together. I was with my ex on and off for the last six years, we broke up three years ago after I found out he cheated.
I was devastated packed up all my stuff and moved 7 hours away. After a month of no contact he begged for me back that was almost 3 years ago. This past year has been hell. I have acted bat shit crazy to say the least. I found out that he was on dating sites I lost my shit, he said it was for entertainment purposes. I know this last year has not been healthy and we need to be separated for now. Well i went and saw him two weeks ago, we had a huge blow out fight.
He met a bartender huge fake boobs and now is in a relationship with her. It has to be a rebound. What do I do. I love him and I want him back. Hi, My boyfriend broke up 10 days back. He broke up without stating the reason. Yes we did have had fights going on between us for about a month. We were in a long distance relationship 7 months but have been in a relationship for 3.
I called him on the 8th day and apologized happily.. Not sounding needy and tried to convince him for a next shot for the relationship. He said you should be aware of the fact that we are no longer in a relationship so whatever you want say, say it as a friend. I said even you had asked for many chances in the past so I also deserve this one atleast.
But he did not listen and cut my call. When I talked to him, he complained about me not attending the phone. And talked general stuff. Asked me about how I was and mentioned that he likes a girl now at his new place. He said I was not able to control. He also asked are we still friends…I ignored and drifted the topic to something else.
But after that I have not received any msg or call from him. Is he serious about the girl or is irt a rebound? He is not ready to talk about our break up with any of our mutual friends too and also has not said about the new girl. This girl is completely opposite of me. My ex broke up with me about 3 years ago when he moved away. He has not dated anyone else seriously since we broke up.
I also have not been in serious relationship since we broke up, mostly because I was hoping to get back together, but those feelings have faded over the last 3 years being apart and having almost no contact. So my ex and I have been broken up for 3 weeks now, we were together for 9 months officially and on and off the last four years. Me and my ex was together for 15 years off and on. He is possessive, jealous, and manipulate.
He started dating someone the first week we broke up. He is never home and he stop calling and texting after a certain time. But he still text an call me to be with him. Me and my ex broke up almost 3 weeks ago. The funniest thing is that he started dating someone else 2 days after we broke up. Close friend and I was very angry at him for that. Mine left me for complete opposite,been rubbing,bragging how happy he is.
Then last night shows me picture of her proposing to him in sand. We were together 10 years. Proposing on the sand after one month! Going on a date with a gorgeous new guy tonight… skaterboy… looks a lot like the ex… but is SANE. I laugh at these photos and wonder a who the photographer is and b what that first conversation between them and the ex must sound like: Can it still be a rebound after 3 months?
My ex jus broke up with me after an almost 4 years relationship. Due to my work stress and financial problems as well as family problems, i was edgy for the past few months and threw tantrums at him, getting over sensitive and paranoid at small little things. He then broke up with me. I was told by a friend that about few weeks from our break up, he is going out with a girl and they are in the buddy stage. She had also gone to his house so i assume they already have sex.
I need an urgent advice, I was in a 4years relationship back in high school, we were so fond of each other.. I love him and never stopped, we broke up and I got married ,even on my wedding day I wept crazy cause I wished I made a different choice.. He always sends me messages on my birthday and keeps calling though with a private number, I still love him.. Lately we've been speaking via phone and calls.. At some point I blocked him thinking that will help me forget about him and all we shared but I just cant.
I really want him back.. My husband is really nice.. Don't know what to do. He loves me but the feeling isn't mutual, I've got a child with my husband. I don't know if my ex will want me back The thought of leaving my husband of 4years is scary.
It was really out of the blue. Basically in the time we've been dating he initiated everything, he told me he loved me first, said I was the best thing that happened to him. He asked me to move in with him too. Said it's always been me. All of this, stuff I never expected, like I'm not a fan of fairy tale stuff but he said it. I met his whole family, was there when things got real tough for him and eventually I let my walls down and fell for him.
I already got out of a relationship where there was none of that. He planned for us to move to Auckland, he moved two weeks ago and asked me to do long distance and that he was so grateful I agreed and decided to stick by.
I still love him like that wont fade, I've never felt this way about anyone so strongly it took me a while but it did happen, he was great at communication like he wouldnt let us go to sleep on a bad note and talk it out. Like it was such a good relationship, he was really low about a month ago and said I was the only thing keeping him going, he got out of that because he left that job and then the next week he was in Auckland with a new license and new job.
I was supposed to move down in two months time. So on Friday night he came over, perfect night, I got him his favorite treats and everything like usual and we were just us, the next morning was great we woke up goofy and giggling and just happy, dropped me off at work and said he cant wait for us to go to work together and come home together, picked me up from work, everything was fine like you can tell when someone was off and he wasnt at all. Then he came up from his haircut and it took a while like nearly 2 hours, then he came back to mine, we were supposed to meet my family and he said he cant move in with me it was moving so fast and then didnt speak and I asked if he was breaking up with me and he said yes.
I asked is it the right person wrong time and he didnt answer and I also asked if there could be something for us in the future and he said he doesnt want to make any promises he cant keep.
But followed with you were my friend first and will always be my friend, I've always considered you as one of my best friends. He knows everything about me and so do I about him. I've never felt this way about anyone before and its just killing me because I could be there in two weeks from now. Do you think they're could be a chance for us in the future? People said if he felt this way, he wouldnt have broken up with me I saw the phone number at a very good time I needed it. Need to set realistic boundaries.
Talk about what you are texting to this other person. See if it is bothering your boyfriend and why -- and if his reasons are really realistic. I have been dating this guy for 4 year but he said he need time to think 1 week ago because he thinks am cheating on him texting wiz another guy. Hi I have a good question?
My ex of 26 years cheated and we have four children together. We meet for the kids but o now find he shows no manners towards me anymore. Doesn't open doors, say thankyou when I've made an effort to drive the children for a meet. I really feel disrespected in so many ways and used it hurts! Me and my ex bf had been dating for 7 years and he is in the army and just got back from his second deployment. After a few months back home he broke up with me and said it was because I wanted to get married and he didn't.
Our relationship was great and this was all out of the blue. Is there a chance he could be together again? Then i went for holidays with my family and one day he called me and said that he doenst feel that he misses me and that he is not in love anymore 1 week before that he said that he missed me but he didnt wanted to break up with me so i had to break up with him. Me and my ex were high school sweethearts, 5 yrs past and we ended up madly in love.
I Never cheated on her. Skip forward to our breakup I was leaving to the military and wanted her to live her life and enjoy the world cuz she was stuck in relationship after relationship but ours was always going to be different.
Fast forward 6 months She broke up over phone and then I bombarded messages she blocked me from every social platform. After some time she responded with like on my personal message in facebook but on that day I missed to check and again bombarded messages.
Now no contacts no news nothing. I do not knw what she is doing now? I got virtually every information she has been hiding over the months easily on my own phone: I also got her phone calls and deleted messages.
If you need any type of hack you should employ the contact. Do let things cool off for awhile -- that in all honesty is the best thing to do in this situation and the only way of having a chance. He might not change his mind though, in that there is incompatibility. He needs to confront his feelings with his ex first before doing anything with you. Did he break up with her to be with you? He has too much that's unresolved. He may have enjoyed your connection, but it perhaps wasn't exactly what he was wanting.
I say -- don't count on him coming back and go out and carve YOUR life. There are plenty of men out there who will love you and not play these games. If this man comes back, you first need to know what YOU really want. Which it's perfectly fine not to take him back because of his wishy-washyness.
It's also okay for you to try him again. The advice most experts would give you is not to contact him for at least a month.
I dated this guy 2 months. He was not emotionally open but spent a lot of time with me on his own will: He left me because he still loves his ex so he felt it is not right to be with me. I felt that we had a great connection and I could understand his thinking.
Also he told me he thought I was not right for him because we had 10 years age difference him older. I acted very kind with the breakup. He apologised every sentence and showered me with compliments.
I can remember his ways of looking at me and I refuse to believe that there were not feelings there. I do not want to but I do hope he will miss me and come back. Do I have any chance, if his ex does not want him back?
But we have been good together. No major quarrels etc. So he called it off. Feeling that we are not compatible. So neither did I pressure him. As time goes by.. I think the pace of me getting angry gets more and he just got more frustrated. Do you think I let things cool off a little while and I would still have chance of trying with him again?
He is married now and it's funny because we keep running into each other and now we text each other almost every other day. He says he's happily married, but then one week ago he texted me that I still have half of his heart.
What does that mean? I am married too by the way!! It's been 2 years since we first broke up, and a year since we disconnected our relation. I was waiting for 4 month as he kept promising he will break up. I was unhappy but still madly in love with him. I broke up with him. I begged, cried got drunk, but he kept his game, telling me he still loves me, but doesn't trust our love anymore.
I needed a vacation and flew 5 month away from home travelling in hope to forget him. I flew broken hearted. I couln't forget nor to forgive him. I couldn't forgive him at all, and I couldn't be apart from him. I kept my distance for a week and than texted him again a week that felt like a year we got back together again, but I never forgave him, 2 weeks before I came back I apologized and said that I can't really forgive him and that I am terribly sorry.
I contacted him 2 month lated, on April he told me he is in a new relationship. I haven't seen him for a year and a half now, but I think of him all the time.
After I last contacted him on April he blocked me on whatsup, and then after a month he unblocked me, what could this mean? I know he still think of me, I know I love him still I cannot date others, I don't want to date others It sounds like he is pushing you out. Stop trying to message him and see if he comes back around eventually. You need to focus on yourself now and make a new life for yourself.
Don't sit around and wait for this person. You can't force someone to love or trust you. I was with my ex for 6 years and he had just finally gotten married.
We were happy and starting our life as a marriaged couple even though we had basically been married and acted as so for years before we finally made it official.
He ended up cheating on me and left to go move in to his dads house rigth before Christmas. I was destroyed by this cause there were no signs of anything wrong between us before he did what did. There was a huge argument when it when down and it blowed up bad fora few weeks. He blocked me on facebook and when didnt talk for months. Then i finally was able to move of of the apt we have together for 5 years and to another apt somewhere else. Afterwards i noticed he un blocked me from facebook. I didnt message him after i noticed that.
A month later i was diagnosed with cancer and i knew i needed to tell him just in case things went bad he had a right to know. So i told him in a message and sent it. He responded within mins and wanted to talk to me. We agreed to meet up in the park and talk about things. We did this every day for a week and even went out and hung out. He told me he wanted to be there for me with what i was going througg and told me he missed me and cared about me still.
Which he was taking to appointments and surgerys and coming over a lot and talkinv to me every day. This has been going on for months now. He was still with the other girl during which he told me he would fight with her a lot about it cause she didnt like that he wants to be there for me.
Which we had our ups and downs during the months cause he seems to be torn on what he wants. He told me that he her that he didnt care what she thought about it and that he was doing to be there for me no matter what. When he left me and when we he back and wanted to talk to me he would still say i was beautiful and that i didnt deserve what happened and that he knows he had it good with me but he messed it up. So after a couple weeks of us talking non stop and he seemed really happy talking to me and even making plans with me and it all seemed to be going well.
I thought pkay we are starting to heal and we are talking about things. I sent him a message telling he how i felt about him and told him i didnt expect anything from him but that i need to be honest about my feelings and how i still loved him and that going through the cancer and being able to talk to him really brights up my day.
I felt so nervous about expressing myself like that and even wanted to apologize thinking maybe it was dumb since we were basically acting like friends. He read the message and told me he need so time to think. I wasnt sure how to take that response.. He thinks that I cheat him Now he shift to abroad.. He was having a rough time with his sons mother and I disagreed to space and definitely over reacted.
After the breakup he said he still loves me, but I did something that was a lot to handle. Do you think after some space, we may have a second try? We were in a fast paced relationship and were looking for a place to move in with each other right before this happened. He is the man of my dreams and always told me I was his best girlfriend and I am everything he needed in one.
But I overreacted by putting my life on the line, which I know brought fear to him. He said he can still be here for me after we have some space. I really hope he gives me a second chance. Hi my me and my lartner have been together 13yrs an 5 weeks ago he woke up an said he loves me but isnt in love with me, says that hes gave uo the perfect woman an that he needs his own space yet still cimes to my home stays shiwers etc, we have kids together also, he says he needs to live his life which he dose anyway or regret no livin his life or regret losing me in years to come he says its a chance he has to take, i dont know what way to take all of this any answers would be appreciated he tells everyone he has given uo the perfect relationship for no reason what so ever he says hes depressed an shows no empathy im so confused.
I need your advice please. What do I do if my ex says he doesn't like me but still asks my guy friend how I'm doing and he got jealous and asked a boy I was flirting with if he liked me and he is still talking to me and still touchy with me but I don't get it what do I do.
Its been almost two weeks since we broke up. We were both 21 hadn't had relationships before so everything was a first for us. When we first started to go on dates and start hanging out it got more serious to the point of I asked him through text what we were and he said I was his girlfriend. Six months down the line I told him I loved him, I thought he did too, because he is VERY affectionate, more than myself, he would always pull me in to kiss or cuddle etc. He felt bad and said he just wasn't there yet.
We never really fought, had some disagreements but it never ended up fighting. A month after we had a first tiff and I was very dramatic and stormed out, I came back and he was crying and telling me to come back to bed, I felt so so bad and immediately started to cry.
Thats when he stopped himself from falling for me. We made up and continued for a while till one night we were both in a foul mood mind you these moods only happened 3 times, no fights or arguments and I just didn't speak to him, that day he broke up with me. He texted me that night saying he felt guilty and wanted to come over to watch a movie then decided not to, he then came the next night and aware that we weren't together we still wanted to be friends.
We did this twice and from his texts I could tell he wanted space, I did for a week and a half then he reached out to me to come over and watch a movie, we did. He proposed friends with benefits I said no because I am still in love with him and that would wreck me, we stayed up all night cuddling and eventually gave in. I guess from there we saw one another each week from August hanging out like a couple again. He didn't ask me out again so it sorta just happened. We had a serious talk this year in April and he said I think we need to take a break because it wasn't fair me loving him and he doesn't feel that way.
We made up that night and fast forward to now June He got a new promotion and new flat, he showed me it and said what he was planning to do, we even made plans for the flat, two days later he broke up with me.
It was such a confusing breakup with so many contradictions; Saying he couldn't do it anymore, he needs time to figure his feelings out for me, he still cares and is still attracted to me, that he never really knew what he wanted going into a relationship, some weeks he was into the relationship and some weeks he wasn't, he said he felt love in some parts of the relationship but didn't know what to do with them so he pushed them away always thinking with his head and not his heart Just confusing and I don't know if it was full closure.
I asked if we could still be friends and if he still wanted that too and he said yes but he needs time. We are still connected on social media. I haven't contacted him and he hasn't me, I want to give him time, I still love him and he's never done me wrong just a genuinely amazing guy. We grew together so much too, sharing so many firsts and amazing memories.
I know time and space to let him breathe and figure things out. I just don't want to loose him completely from my life. I think If we could try again I would.
You don't need an official bye from him for closure. I say this man doesn't deserve anymore time from you and he is taking advantage of your time when you could be with someone else who cares about you. It might sting initially, but you'll recover and things will get better. Don't contact this guy, don't respond, tell him it's over and you're moving on. He wants to have both you and this other women WHEN he wants to do so.
It has nothing to do with your time, but only his. You'll feel more closure in time, but it will come from shutting him out. I think you have a chance. Not sure how long it's been since you've broken up, but test the waters with some text messages and see how he responds. Start with some positive friendly texts and don't immediately go straight for asking for reconciliation.
Just see if you can start a conversation that goes back and forth with ease, and if it seems positive, try meeting at something non-threatening, like for coffee or a movie. I dated a man in and off for a little over a year. He kept going back to his ex gf. He would come around and tell me that I meant so much more to him than he ever told me.
The other day he went as far as to tell me he loved me and is still trying to work things out with her. I finally hit a breaking point and asked for a goodbye he refuses to give me and told him it was hurtful, cruel and disrespectful that he would leave me more than once for her yet crawl back to me for advice when things were not going well for them and tell me he misses things we did and that he loved me.
He said he wasn't thinking I feel like he has feelings for me but nothing compared to what he has for her. I pushed him away this time instead of hi. Fading away like he usually does. But with his refusal to give me a goodbye he hates goodbyes as he sees them as permanent what is the chances I need to be prepared for him to try and return yet again? I have got to find a way to let go of the love I have for this man as I know its not healthy and I know it will continue like this as long as I allow it.
Any suggestions on how to be prepared for a possible rerun if you all think there is a chance of him returning at all. We had relationship for two years. Started as lovers only. But he wanted it more filled with emotions. And after several months I gave up. We had caring warm loving relations with one twist- we kept it secret. He is 9 years younger with a family of really traditional rules.
Broke up 6 moths ago. One day, I started a fight forcing him to break up with me. I accepted it after our long talks that night. I think he saw my changes and improvements and appreciated it, too. I did ask for a second chance via text on NYE I went on a family trip without him , but he said no.
Our body language is a little bit more than just friends, but I laid out the no kissing or sex rules.
I told him the same thing and that I am actually enjoying my life. Though I really do hope the day will come sooner. We still care for each other, talk about everything, and are happy to have each other. What should I do?
But we really grew with each other. This doesn't seem positive. I'm not sure what happened in this guy's head. He may have been playing you, or he may have run out because he wasn't ready for commitment here.
There is a lot of mystery, but if he is ready to jet randomly -- he would do it again, and again, and again. It sounds like the two of you had serious communication issues. My boyfriend broke up with me because he thinks I love to start drama. When reality I just only told him what happened but he went to confront the girl. He also wanted to be done because I usually vent to my friends and try to get guidance.
My friend became angry because he mentions her everytime we argue. So she confronted him but he blames me for wt she did when all I did was tell what happened. We are not talking, he took me off all social media. We spent time together all the time and he spoiled me. He has cheated on me more than once by talking to multiple girls and received oral from 2 girls while we were together, but I forgave him and was willing to work on it with him.
But he dumps me for something little? My ex and I met 3 years ago, because he had just moved to my high school and we both were on the track team my best friend begged me to do it with her that one year. From the first time I saw him I was immediately drawn to him. We started talking and liking each other but it was never serious, we hung out once with a group of people and we both agreed to break it off. I saw him randomly several times since we broke it off, and each time we had picked up where we left off and it was magical.
I could tell by the way he looked at me that he still had something for me but he got a girlfriend 2 years after we broke it off. Even though he had a girlfriend, I could tell he still likes me a little bit.
We have something special. I never been in a serious relationship before because I lost interest quickly but I never lost interest with him. We dated for 5 months and recently broke up because he wants to grow on his own and claims that we both need to make personal changes on our own, not together. I understood his reason but we were very happy together it was just so out of nowhere. He told me to wait till this month end after a 3 months breakup he told me last month that I must wait for him then the month is not even finish the he asked to come see me the went to his place but I'm still not sure if he's back or what I dont know what to ask now I'm more quite than before I don't do alot of talking and he is seeing that because he is telling me everytime that I'm quite I wanna ask him why he's back am I wrong?
Or must I just carry on because I do still have feelings for him but not sure if he is really back.. Ok so my grand father passed away on Friday the 13th. The same day my bf told me he dont love me the same anymore. He just dont feel it between us anymore.