Looking for more ways to connect and get closer with your partner? Considering marriage but want to make sure you're as prepared as possible? Go tubing, kayaking, or canoeing together. Go fruit picking together. Enjoy a candlelight dinner together at your home or apartment.
Attend a local festival together. Go chalking—draw weird pictures and funny or encouraging messages on the sidewalk with chalk.
Great idea for college students on campus. Find somewhere you can feed the ducks together note: Get back in touch with your inner child and finger paint together. Draw pictures or caricatures! Enjoy a board game night. Your area may have a game store where you can come and try out games at a certain time. Attend a play or musical event together. Plan and carry out a small fundraiser together for a cause you both believe in.
Prepare an unusual meal together for instance, sushi or homemade ravioli. Learn some new games. Visit an amusement park together. Visit a historic or beautiful cemetery together. Enjoy some active two-person games and sports together tennis, racquetball, Ping-Pong, croquet, Frisbee… Build a campfire together and enjoy sitting by it and talking.
Roast marshmallow or hot dogs.
Play Guitar Hero or other interactive video games together. Watch early morning cartoons and make breakfast together. Visit an art museum together. In each room, pick your favorite piece of art and talk about why you like it. Go for a beautiful hike in a natural area together.
Explore a cave together research this one first! Go hunting or fishing together. Visit an odd, unusual or quirky tourist attraction together. Check out Atlas Obscura for some really unique sites! Visit the zoo together. Which are your favorite animals and why? What animal reminds you of yourself or your date?
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Go horseback riding together. Visit an agritourism attraction pumpkin patch, corn maze, etc. Attend a talk or lecture together and discuss it afterwards. This is about flowers! Build and fly a kite together.If First Dates Were Honest
Attend a workshop at a local crafts or hardware store. Visit a paint-your-own pottery studio together. Make a ridiculous video on your smartphones, using one of the many apps available. Design and build a gingerbread house together. Attend a wine tasting, coffee tasting, or other free tasting event together. Visit a factory, vineyard, or brewery that gives tours. Go to a drive-in movie together. Visit a video arcade together and challenge each other to see who can score the highest on different games.
Go letterboxing or geocaching together. Play old-fashioned playground games together: Play a game of paintball together. Visit a high-ropes course or zip line course together. In the past, I had a negative image of having fun while dating.
The Non-Rule, 'Rules' of Dating
I thought that if I told men I wanted to have fun that they wouldn't take me seriously or see me as the mature and dynamic woman I am. I assumed they would see or hear the word "fun" and think I was shallow, or not looking for a relationship with substance, or anything deep or meaningful.
But what I have found is just the opposite. I am being very honest and authentic when I speak about having fun. What has ended up happening is that while having fun with someone, I build a potential foundation for things moving forward. I had a friend describe dating as, "Just keep doing it until it stops being fun," and I thought it was genius.
It's true that it could last for weeks or months or years -- or even the rest of my life. But it's also true that as soon as things stop being fun, it's time to move on. This doesn't mean not communicating or not moving forward into a relationship or into something deeper and more meaningful, but it does mean that the foundation is still based on having fun together.
It's true that more than half of the people on the dating websites or people participating in any and all kinds of dating are in fact "looking for that special someone.
I admit I used to have a checklist when it came to men. And sure, as a year-old woman, I have my fair share of "deal breakers. What has changed is that I am more than willing to go out on a date or two or six or seven with someone who I wouldn't have normally dated.
What I am learning is that if I am too rigid and focus too much attention on what I am "looking" for and what everything must look like and feel like in that process , I am missing out on allowing myself to experience something special.
Because really, the specialness is in those moments where I am on a date with someone and laughing so hard my stomach hurts and just enjoying the time together and not focussing on what comes next. The next thing will come just as fast as the last thing did, but it comes back around to just being in what's happening right now.
And as far as the calling and the texting and the "rules" about dating and intimacy and all of that, my motto is just be honest. If it feels like the right time to have a conversation, have it. If you feel nervous about having a conversation, say that.
If you had a great time and want to send a short text, do it. Sure, it may be breaking all of those dating "rules," but at least it's authentic and eliminates the games, at least a little bit.
In the end I may still have a broken heart, or feel disappointed when a guy doesn't call or text me or seem as interested as I want him to be, but it's better to know than not to know. Dating may bring forward my worst insecurities and a lot of unfavorable feelings that I need to deal with, but it's in all that dishonesty and game playing that issues start and the fun of the whole thing starts to get smaller and smaller. My truth is that I'd rather just be myself, however it looks, and keep on doing what I want, which is to have fun and keep it real with myself.
I don't really think it could be easier than that. For more by Robin Hoffman, click here. For more on love and relationships, click here. Communities HuffPost Personal Videos. Robin Hoffman, Contributor Health Coach.