We have seen a lot of shocking viral stories from Indonesia over the years, but one we saw recently disturbed us, not just because of the story itself - which was already extremely problematic but also for the way it was covered by all of the Indonesian media outlets that we saw report on it. We have decided not to include too many specifics about the story because it involves a young woman who was underage for the vast majority of it, but in broad strokes here it is: A middle school teacher and his former student got married after seven years of dating. They started dating soon after he was no longer her teacher, a courtship that is well documented on their social media accounts. Recently, she graduated from high school and the two got married. Defrancesco is over 15 years younger to Jacobs.
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They split after a year in So do we have to explain what is wrong with this story? Well, if you work for the Indonesian media, perhaps we do.
Here are a few examples:. The plan was arranged by God. Since they became close and started dating, at that time [she] was still in the second grade of junior high school. From that moment both of became more intimate and forgot about their status as student and teacher. They became more comfortable as a couple. This can be seen from the intimate photos uploaded to [his] Facebook account.
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Their struggle for love bore sweet fruit. Seven years later, right after [she] graduated from high school, they were officially married. Both look harmonious as husband and wife.
But thank God, God always intervenes. We could go on, but you get the idea. None of them contacted somebody from, say, Komnas Perempuan the National Commission for Violence Against Women to get their take on the story. Join our WhatsApp service now to get daily news updates!
Which is a fair point. We have no idea what, if any, boundaries the teacher may have crossed in the seven years he was dating his young, impressionable former student. But as Mariana went on to say: There is no law in Indonesia [forbidding adults from dating underage children], only laws that regulate minimum age for marriage.
This case falls more into ethics. Even university professors who date their students could lose their jobs. Indeed, even if their entire courtship was perfectly chaste, how could nobody have any problem with the ethics of a middle school teachers openly dating his very young former student? By not asking whether this is appropriate or not, the media plays a role in normalizing inappropriate relationships like this.
Unfortunately, the media often acts as a reflection of society. In the case of this viral story, almost all of articles included numerous quotes from commenters on social media congratulating the couple on their marriage, saying they had been blessed by God, saying what a great match they were etc.
The problem is much bigger than the media, but the media could play an important role in changing mindsets and asking important or just plain obvious questions. But as Mariana told us, the media in Indonesia is instead perpetuating a patriarchal worldview that is dangerous to women with articles like the ones above. They assume that if a woman has reached puberty they can be seen as sexual objects. They see women as sexual creatures. Dubai Police deny teenage suicides link to 'Blue Whale'.
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Teacher dating former high school student
Now I am left with the fear that knowledge of this tryst will circulate, and if it does, I know I deserve it. I very well may lose my job. I probably deserve to lose my job. I know that nothing like this will ever happen again; but what I am looking for, I suppose, is the reaffirmation of my decision to walk away from someone that I actually do care for.
News of this relationship, even if technically legal, would be troubling to parents, teachers, community leaders and members of law enforcement. It is a very touchy area. You may have done nothing wrong in a technical sense.
You were no longer the young man's teacher, and he had reached the age of consent, which varies state by state in the U. But you sense that you have crossed some line.