There is nothing more exasperating in the world of dating than a guy who seems really interested, but then also maybe not…but then yes…but no again. The uncertainty usually runs rampant if a guy seems to fall somewhere in between. You see, a guy can be somewhat interested, but not into it. Instead of seeing it for what it is, women make up excuses and justifications to rationalize the bad behavior away. Ladies, my many years of dating and writing about dating have taught me one thing:
Thank you so much for thus article! Definitely accurate and I get your point all the time. I love this really. Thank you so much! I have this boyfriend at the begging of our relishiship he used o text me every day now he does not even want 2 give me his number.
I am a women, I have been dating a guy for four months now, we started talking as friends in November last year If he is in need of anything, Im always there for him, he used to play basketball, I would go out of town to support his dreams and video record his game match. Last week Sunday, I texted him a happy Easter and his texted me that to, then at So when I texted him shortly after that he responded back to me, saying that he expected my apologies.
Monday I made him a plate of dinner that would last him for the week, until Sunday when he gets more money to buy some food. Then last night he sends me this shocking text saying that he is done, that he need to focus in himself now.
And he also said that I need to just get it right. What does he mean, can you help me ladies and gentlemen please. Because yesterday he called me on my lunch break asking me about my hospital appointment and we were all fine. It is a piece of trash and honestly, is only spreading around old, distorted misinformation that makes it O.
Sorry, but sociology trumps biology in many cases, and people are more complex than this shitty article lets on. I am trying to better myself as a woman and a girlfriend. Thank you for writing the article. Wish me luck finding love and keeping it.
It is a big excuse not to take commitment and men want everything at the same time and think that it is normal. The only problem i have with this freedom, it is when this man takes decisions or act in a way that affect the freedom of the woman. Lies considered by a lot of men as freedom, are a non respect of the freedom of other persons. Why do u have anything to hide to the person u choose to live with?
What kind of relation is it? The positiv in this article is the balance you are referring to. But advice to all women who read this funny article. Of course we love to be shown love, but we also love to have a sense of missing our significant other in our relationships, it makes the relationship more exciting, and I agree with quality of time over quantity spent idea. AJ we are all human and some of us need more freedom than others.
Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. You need to give someone space. You want to be taken seriously Stop Texting!!! I am deeply in love w my bf of a few years. My mom thinks he is obsessed with me though. Because my cellphone came up missing after a couple months of dating, he came over I had my phone.
This was a few days after my ex tested me asking to get back together. Yesterday an emergency situation happened and I had my bf credit card I had my phone on the charger and missed his 17 calls.. He has never harmed me or shown up unannounced or gave me any reason to question him or his intentions. I would watch my back if I were you. You probably have your head in the clouds. He sounds like a douche bag! I do think your mom has a point. Please, never rush into anything and always think twice.
Ha ha ha ha. As a woman I prefer the direct question rather than dancing around on eggshells: You need more from your relationship and by the sounds of it, she cannot provide it for you.
Do you feel you can talk to her? Also, brace yourself for this next sentence: There is also a chance she is sleeping around or dating around and likes more than one person, so she might not want to hurt you by getting too close. My bf and I started our relationship in october last year. Before that we phoned each other almost everyday even though we have not met up yet. He lives in a different city.
So for 6 months we had been contacting each other only through phone and we finally met up in oct. We had a great date for 4 days and he already confessed to me. I guess we had a very strong chemistry so I accept him.
The day after that I had to go back to my city. At first it was still okay. We skyped almost every nighT. He often texts me sweetly saying he loves and misses me alot and we talked about our future Of living together.
But gradually he became cold and distant. And on our 1st month anniversary he asked for a break. He said he couldnt stand long distance. The day after i didnt text him. He was the one who initiate it. I only replied with a cold manner. Suddenly he became like his old self. He said he was lonely and regret everthing for taking me for granted.
So our relationship became to get better like how it used to be. He said hes not sure till we meet again. So i met him this february. We had a date like lovers. I went back back home. He doesnt become cold now but still feel a little distant. Its still different compared to the time before the break.
He is not as sweet as the old times. And hes so busy recently. I said I miss him so much and ask him if he miss me too. He said he does not miss me because he is busy.
It hurts so much. Does he really love me or just enjoy my company? Please someone help coz im so confused. Are boys really like that? Coz if not all boys are like that then i would dump him for real. I am so tired of him. It feels like he doesnt try hard enough to keep me.
My ex boyfriend cared about texts, he lived by texting. Our entire communcation was based on texts. Even after ending things, he sent an apology via text…. I have never felt so disregarded before with other boyfriends by means of communication.
That is incredibly immature. I was calling my boyfriends in elementary school. You came fully loaded Evan. Pretty insightful from a mans perspective.
We have a drink sometime! This article has some good points and some average points. What you need to know is 1. Focus on yourself the relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have and needs to be cultivated for the rest of your life.
You will find everything you need within yourself. Focus on a higher power, God, angles, Buddha, Allah, whatever that is for you is fine. Turn inward God lives there and or to a higher power for your answers… Do not put your faith, trust, and worth in the worthless people and things that do not know your truth.
Your truth does not change with the seasons, fashions, boyfriends, hairstyles it is forever perfect and good. Your truth will sustain you. Do not invest in illusions of curvy or skinny bodies, doing tricks in bed, or thinking something outside of you will get a man! Do not bet your most valuable parts and self — heart, body, mind, spirit, into relationships that may fail you… Find Empowerment within.
You are the most important thing you OWN treat yourself as such. You must come first that is the order of life. Nothing is more important than your own happiness. Oddly enough all that you are seeking is within you already. The love, approval, and peace all in you not outside or in his pants. You have to cultivate the relationship with yourself to experience the jewel within, the joy and the empowerment.
Stop worrying about boys and what they want and know what you need and want first. No one gives or takes away your worth! You are born with endless deserving, value and worth. You have to pay attention to yourself and have a healthy relationship with yourself to experience it for yourself. He does not take it with him when he breaks up with you or give it to you when you have sex.
You are the Goddess you attract you create your life. You have the power. Your happiness and that you feel good about you is the main ingredient to being alluring. Always get a contract an agreement -everything on the table — clarify both your needs up front before you do anything. Let him show you he can do- has committed, is being consistent, before you move from your Pedestal. He has not asked me to be his girlfriend yet and it has been almost 4 months. We hook up like 3 times a week.
He has met some of my family and friends. He use to text me back all the time and I would not text him that often because I did not want him to feel like I was blowing up his phone, But like I said he was really good about texting me back or he was always the one to text first. Should I leave him alone and just wait for him to text me? Or should I ask him if he is ok?
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I know I am not his girlfriend but he tells me he loves me. I am so confused. Men are not rabbits. Having sex with a man before you are together is O. He might be telling you he loves you so he can sleep with you. Like I said, I suspect this guy is total garbage for you, so you really need to get serious with him.
And is the only way you two communicate via text? Also, how long have you been sleeping together? Because if it has only been a couple weeks, chances are he is emotionally immature; he might be confusing love with obsession, which is unhealthy.
He has expressed concern of the distance repeatedly.. His response was we are not there yet.. But, yet says he wants me to move to him but in my own place.. If you want me to live by you, why not with you?? He say you are not there yet.
Where is there to the place he is clear he wants to sleep with someone else or there he wants to dump you. Look my dear you have to have everything you want in a relationship before you go moving anywhere. He is not sounding secure,and stable in this committment yet.
Have you talked engagement yet, seeing you as a lifelong partner yet? Have you met all the important people to him and he your people. Are you feeling that he is in love with you, and you him willing to give you the level of a committment you desire?
And what is up with if you dont move there it will be the end of you. Really well I hope you are moving for more then just him cause he sounds like this is a fun test for him. I would not move unless and untill he puts a ring on it or you have more reasons then him to move. Dont ever move in with someone with out a sold agreement of what are your terms. What you want for this move. Dont let him tell you how your life is gonna go you do have some say you are the prize here.
Be empowered, be fem! You have your own life to manage let him him come to you. You are the sure one in this not him… Let him sell you on why you should move there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is trying to find an excuse to dump you and may be cheating on you. DO NOT move to him. My boyfriend is very good and looking handsome. But he is very tough personality. In every fight he makes me that I am wrong. And then he treated me like nothing for him.
And when I am trying to call him or msg he treats very rudely. I feel like, I have no self respect. Sometimes I thought that broke up this relationship but I have no dare to do this i love him so much. Mainly we fight on this issue that he has no time for me.
When we meet and discuss on this issue, he told me that in anger he forget all the feelings and he hates those person who fight with him. I love him so much, and he knows that. He also love me. Please tell me what should I do: It does not matter if you dump or not If you dont work on the relationship with yourself you will only attract another looser like him.
You must get your self esteem as high as you possibly can! Your answer will be so clear once you work on focusing on yourself. What you want in a career, education, health, spiritual life, financial, friends, what you want and what you are willing to do to have it.
Focus on the type of relationship you want how you want to be treated and FEEL…. Ia m sure this is not how you want to be treated or feel so why put up with it. You dont have to be in a relationship.
Get you right and a good person will match. Sorry to sound so harsh, but you need to know that you are in an emotionally abusive relationship.
You are being abused and neglected and NEED to leave him for your own health and well-being. You will know when you have found the right person and he clearly is NOT it.
I am sorry, but you need to hear it. Well written and informative. I feel a lot better about my love life as an independent woman and I am happy to have read such a great work of art. So many great points!!! Number 4 is oh so true! He lives 2 hours and a half away from me, he came to my door almost begging for me to come back, he was ready this time to be in a relationship and that he was sorry.
He was so afraid of losing me cause I was practically breaking up with him that he drove 2 hours and a half to apologize and be in a serious relationship with me. I text my bf goodmorning 3 days ago.. I say play the field. You should keep your options open and stop allowing one dude to have so much control over you. Although this is the exact way articles are normally written, but for males gain, try posting stuff like this and watch all of the men who would fear a world ruled by changing for women freak out.
Redirected name calling, bullying, bashing, and out right unfocused anger because they have no logical reason to be upset. I completely agree, why do women have to change in order to please a guy? Is terrible that people actully think this is how is should be, and i even worse that they publish this stupid things. This article is complete one-sided garbage. I have never seen an article telling men how THEY can improve, even though a lot of men seriously need to learn. Men ARE capable of communication and I am so tired of articles giving excuses for them.
It is time they listened to what THEY need to work on as well. I could have written your post. You can do better!! What if your best friend told yoU the same thing.
What advice would you give her. Men are in relationships for themselves. They want something from the other one. THEY— want to be wooed. Maybe a candle-lite homemade meal or a romantic happy-hour at his place. You get it, something simple. NEVER happened with several. I gave an gave and really got very little in return — actually nothing. I would visit him after work 10pm there was never any snacks or hot chocolate, no hot tea waiting for me, especially in winter!
No ice tea or lemonade in summer, either. They have to woo me — first. That only comes when both sides work at it. If it is not there move on i know thats hard but what this artical says is true. In all seriousness, this is a good article.When He's Not Investing In You, Avoid THIS MISTAKE (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
I am a guy and I just wanted to see what this was about, and she hit the nail on the head. NOW, all we need is a female version of this so I can feel better. All women are good for is to be impregnated and then kill them off after they give birth. They are filthy sub-creatures. Can someone say jaded loser napolian syndrome. Probably drive a big oversized truck too because we know men with super small packages talk this hateful.
Guy im dating doesnt call everyday
It was the same pyschopath posting both times, the three minutes apart gives it away. All these articles claim men want more than anything to make their woman happy, yet I see very few actually even trying to. As if a relationship should not involve any compromise or sacrifice. Fine then, stay single. They will be perpetually so anyway, with that belief.
If you work in a job that employs mostly women, they only open their mouths to talk about — babies! They only bond with other women that have — babies! Another takes over their work when they leave to have a — baby. As far as school, they only return to show everyone the — baby and then drop out! Their kids belong at — home, not out in public. Their raising whinny brats. They only care about themselves in a workplace or school setting.
At this age, I understand why men cheat! A women delivered coffee to this office that I worked at, she was shocked that when the kids left to college, there was no relationship with her husband — he left too. Wow you three have issues. Do you write just to stir the shit?
I cannot believe you three think like this. Those brainless idiots made me laugh. No gender has a monopoly on inflicting damage. Just like I read stuff written for men I also read stuff written for women. What a waste of time. We went on a date and it was awesome. So I need to quit overthinking everything and just calm down. I was taking to a male and female co-worker one day during our break. From personal experience, I dated this one guy and I was the ideal girlfriend I guess you could say.
We spent about a year together I never had any doubts, I trusted him completely, and I felt that we completely loved each other. Turns out he had cheated on me about five months into our relationship and I was completely oblivious to it. I actually found out through one of my friends. I confronted my now ex and told me it was true. I need some clarification as to what my male co-worker said.
Spot on — especially the texting and freedom part. My freedom is the most important thing in my entire life along with my solitude. I have frequent short-term sexual relationships, but it inevitably all turns up the same. I get a text from my best male friends and I go days without answering, and most of the time I just never answer.
I have a very specific set of ideals. If a woman is not able to give me space, it signals to me that she has no life. When a woman begins getting hung up about every little text and phone call and what the tone of my voice means, then I know emphatically that she is weak, that she has no life, that she has no goals. However, I doubt that will ever happen. Very interesting that you are comfortable with being alone yet you are on a website about relationships and dating.
I think when you meet the one, whatever that exactly is for you, you might have a change in ideals. It is healthier to be in relationship because you want to be not need to be. Neero, I am sure that if you traveled the whole world, you will find someone who is not only a renaissance girl, but someone who inspires you.
I have seen what can happen to a person who has no real friends. A girl who inspires you will always be different, not only because of what makes her unique, but also for her sense of comfort with herself. Most girls I have met are concerned about mundane things, such as texting or cup sizes. There are girls out there who are passionate about what they do, like me, and you should be a part of their life, not their whole life as you said. I hope you find your destiny. I hope you find your best friend and love, for that in my opinion is the best kind of relationship.
Mine told me he traveled all over the world while serving our country, and all he had to do was go around the corner, and there I was. I hope you find the love of your life worth going to the stars and moon for. You come off as very arrogant, selfish and immature. Real strong, stable and independent women will not want men like you. You project your own thoughts onto women and disrespect them without trying to understand.
Well let me tell you: They want a man — someone with strength as great as theirs, and not a boy — someone who just does as he pleases. With your standards, you will only find someone like you instead: As a person yearning and reaching to be a wondering writer such as yourself, I agree and understand that having the ability to go anywhere, anytime and do anything is important. Classifying every woman as needy and controlling is not fair since their actions stem from your same need, to feel secure in something, not that you were grouping all women.
The need to feel safe is not met, we lash out in fear, and you are driven further away by your clostrophobic fears. You get your distance, she gets support. Then you travel the world experiencing everything with a mind as adventurous and cunning as your own, and nothing feels better than that. And never quite got it. I have been told to play head games, mirror their image.
That all sounded like too much work. Who wants to make keeping a boyfriend your full time job. Your article just tells it like it is. No scamming with a build up to make you buy a book. You spoke in lamens terms, and it made me giggle, and smile, and look at my man in a whole new light. I have recently split up with my ex..
This article was really helpful. Especially the part about withdrawal. Thanks for your help.. Answer this my man left me after 2 years because I would not go out and sleep with other men. You deserve a better man than him. What if all the no-no that you have mentioned above is done by the guy instead?
How do I deal with it? My ex-husband was very kind at first , somewhere along the line he became a devil, my new boyfriend is acting like a robot being over nice ,promising me marriage , saying he wants twelve..
Like seriously and what help ed me not to fall for this was experience and relationship advice. Now he wants twelve babies out of wedlock, I told him you use Condoms and everyone is happy , cos I will never be pregnant for a stranger, when the fun is over we all go our separate ways without baggages. I am sorry for any girl that falls for such guys.
So he broke up. I am so heartbroken but I work on myself and that gives me my joy and happiness.. Their failed relationship is a proof of their unsuitability for marriage business.
And these kind of women are always men hating, men killing , men nagging, men shaming feminists. I know some guys will still go ahead and remarry these idiots. I am a single mom and my failed relationship was due to him cheating while I was at he with our 5 week old baby.. We are all different with different happenings in life.
So texting is my primary mode of communication. I really liked this article. With regards to the texting I have some questions though. He is awesome in person but makes very little effort over texts. Yeah he never ignores my texts and he shows interest when I ask him out. Is it too soon for this kind of behavior? Babe he him some time. He will likely miss you if you play your game right. Now this is the game plan: Each time he calls you or texts you, act really happy and excited.
Do this even when you guys cross paths. All these should happen within 30 seconds. You will see him rush immediately and he wil even forget he needed time off completely. I text him but he reply after some days…plz plz plz tell me what to do? When they play Prince Charming early in the relationship, they should be a little more understanding that women are going to have hurt feelings when they stop this behavior out of the blue, without explanation. There are plenty of men who are sincere and let the relationship progress at a healthy pace, thereby avoiding the freak out mode.
Men who pour it on thick in the beginning, only to call you needy when you return the gestures are not good men to be with. If they do this, just move on. The more we give into this behavior, the more it becomes accepted. Thank u sooo much for this article!
It was really helpful for me and explained a lot of things that I was previously confused about. Hey, This is such a great read! I have a question: That is, that a man will automatically make plans to see you and he will WANT to make plans? Or does the idea of making plans for men equal losing their freedom? And therefore it is something to avoid, even when they commit to you? Can you puts things straight for me please. Whoa, girl, that guy is bad news. You said one time in a comment that, Men only invest in a relationship but I forgot the res tof the comment.
Can you refresh me? But i am in problem , i am engaged girl its 2 months ago but i know he is not at all interested in me from starting we dont have love relation it is arrange marriage i dont thing so he ever fall in love with me. I cant break this engagement coz of family but i really want solution please highlight some solutions i am subscribed to nem mode also. He is not in love with me but he is not behaving anything bad with me his behaviour is good with me but he doesnt love me.
Hi Gita, I feel for you, actually I dont believe in love but I also DO NOT believe in forced marriage, every individual has the right to chose who to marry or choose to stay single if they wish.
Have you spoken to your parents or to the guy about how you feel? Hello Helen, My parents have very simple living and thinking so they suggested to continue. Yes i talk with my fiyancee i said indirectly also and directly also that u dont like me but he is saying it is nothing like that. Dear Gita, Your problem seems to be the traditions of your culture. You can either choose to go ahead with the marriage and risk a life of no love but with the possibility of peaceful co existence OR tell your parents you do not want to go ahead with the marriage.
From what you wrote it sounds like you have some feelings for the guy. Wear your hear for him. I dreaded him coming home from work. I got a new relationship and we were the best of friends, lovers, partners. Pay attention to current events, have an opinion about something.
Men want a friend, an interesting partner in a relationship, whether a girlfriend or wife. Oh, be a good cook.
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Good food, good conversation can bring you close, closer. The ex — when he left said about the new one, She — can really cook! He is all about actions and the texting part is definitely just a sign that he is still having his own life as I do as well. Thanks again for such a well put article. I really do love all your practical advice: I love how this is an article about men wrote by a woman.
I might as well write an article about how to to breast feed your newborn. Thank you so much Sabrina! The article made perfect sense to me! Although I learnt to deal with everything that is mentioned here, but sometimes you start getting in doubt… Reading this article every time gives me loads of positive energy and helps me stay strong and happy!!
Thank you very much! Richie — is there a specific point or points you disagree with? This artical is total BS. Totally one persons opinion through out the whole thing, and you should stop reading this trash unless you are trying to be just like the author.
I knew all his friends and frankly I really liked most of them and I got along with their girlfriends and them so it was never a big deal to hang out with them. That part about men wanting to make women happy? When either Sabs or I write something, we speak to the things you can control — your actions, your reactions and your thoughts.
I have never read dating advice online. This site is awesome!!
Me and my bf have been together almost 3 years. The past couple weeks he has not been texting me as much. In the past he has called me multiple times a day and texted, being more needy then I am in general.
We talked tonight about how I feel ignored lately and I asked him whats up. He said he just has been busy and wants to feel like a man, not a guy in high school, calling to just tell me he loves me a few times a day, he wants me to focus on finishing college, and have my own life and do what i want.
I think he feels too dependent and needy making him feel less of a man. After reading this he wants more freedom maybe.
So for other girls reading this, it works both ways!! Worry about yourself sometimes, and not just pleasing him always. If you do your own thing and give some space, I think it makes men want you more. It makes me want him more too. Also, when something bothers either one of us, we say hey this is whats up and then we talk not argue and deal with it. So that is also true in this from my experience.
So spot on, my boyfriend wants to buy me stuff but dislikes it when I constantly Ask for smth. I also want to note that how much he desires your appreciation depends entirely on how much he values YOU as a romantic partner, and that has to do with how you inspire him and give him confidence, if you make your bf feel good about himself as a man, his desire for your appreciation will go up. Helen, you have been hurt, and clearly more than once.
However, I am here to tell you that you are not talking about men when you say that in reference to item 3. A real man, in touch with what he wants and how his actions effect others will always want to make you happy. The hurt game is played by boys who want to keep you unbalanced and at arms length. I have a 16 yr old son, and much of this advice about men I can apply to him also in a way…I am truly feeling much happier and hopeful in life now that I am learning how men tick….
I will def be buying your books! What a load of rubbish, women, get back to banging your head on the table please. Noone gives you the right to say what we think, or feel. Well actually it is indirect communication.. I read this article and feel depressed because I seem to be behaving more like the male counterpart. I am not male. Do other women experience this? Reading the article made me sad. About two months ago, I met what I thought was a wonderful man through a dating website.
I felt he was different, I thought that he would never hurt me. Few weeks after our first encounter, he admitted that he lied and hide some details about him.
Well, I just told him that I understand why he was not willing to share his whole life with someone he has just met through the web. The next two weeks after his revelations were actually very great. I could sense that he really liked me. After those few days, he just stopped communicating with me. Texting was our only way to communicate. He canceled all of our meetings for about 4 weeks I did it once, but I have a very good excuse… medical reasons!
I know he has an erratic schedule, but he was basically spending all of his free time hanging out with friends. I was hurt, but I thought that I should not expect to become the center of his world after only few weeks. At the end of those 4 weeks, I was just mad at him, and discouraged. To be honest, my self-esteem is already low enough, it is not healthy for me to wait after someone who will perhaps never come to me.
I said that I was very deceitful because I really liked him, and that I was hurt that he could not even make an hour or so to see me. I felt that I was rude! Fine, I was fine with that… We continued to be in touch, and I finally agreed to see him at his place after his job on Sunday night.
At the end, we shared some intimacy touching and kissing. Anyway, on Monday night, I texted to know if everything was fine. And it really does hurt me. I really try to be comprehensive, but it just seems that there is no room for me in his life. If he wants to be with you — he should find a way. If you are not available to him.. He may realize that he misses you. Either way , I relate to your story and know that the right person will always want to make it work. This article is amazing.
I have realised where i was going wrong in my past relation and what he wanted. Its true that guy need their space and their freedom. I think about the woman I love every waking minute. If you actually love someone, you can no more stop lvoing them than you can stop breathing…and either leads to death.
There are people in my love that I love and would do anything for. Even if they were no longer in my life. Are you suggesting that the only suitable men to be in relationships are extremely testosterone endowed? Would you recommend that men who are unsuccessful with women should just do steroids? That would be quite a world to see….
If u love people, it is ur present that u need to share with them, every moment. Otherwise, if u are lucky, yes maybe they will live long. Maybe they will die tomorrow. But near these days He starts replying me with no more than 3 words Is it suppose to be normal? Does he not care And he never texts me first Why? It is clearly placing all men in a single category, saying we are all the same and thats that.
I came across this article because all this is happening to me. I always have to initiate calls and messages now. I know she is free and doing nothing and yet still doesnt find 10seconds to send a simple message. Its me who has ended up analysing, being frustrated and constantly waiting for the phone to ring. She comes to see me rarely, we have sex, then she leaves, now i just feel like im being used, it feels awful.
I cannot agree with the advice given in this article, every person and situation is different and cannot be generalised. Im with this guy for 5 months now, and he is ignoring me like to the max. At first, he was very very close to me. Now he says he is quite busy.
But, when we talk or text, I really feel that he really cares by the way he talk. But recently, he is being like im a stranger. On the 20th was my 5th month anniversary, he wished me in the morning, saying that he was sorry for not being early coz he slept early last night, and he even told me that he wont be able to talk to me till Tuesday, as he is very busy.
He has time for others, as he comes on whatsapp again and again to chat with others. But, he hasnt got any time for. Im very scared of this situation. I really dont wana end this relationship with him. I really need some advise on this matter. Is he really not into me now? Is he really ignoring me? Has he lost interest in me? What should I do? Nashy-this guy has obviously lost interest in you unfortunately. He is putting a lot of emotional distance between the two of you by not having any time to hang out online or even in person.
The fact that you say he is acting like a stranger is a blinking neon sign that he wants out of this relationship. Try distancing yourself from him-stop initiating all contact. If he wants to talk to you because he misses you, he will let you know in some way. Wish you the best of luck! In the beginning of the relastionship he struggled when he meet me if he should date me because he had planned on being free as a bird for the next year and work on his career.
However on our first date he drove 50 miles to pick me up…he talked so easily the whole ride.. We skyped alot for weeks, I live 50 miles away so we hung out a few days a week having the most fun. He hated texting would mostly call.. I agree with number 4 and 5 the most. This happened t me not long ago. I was dating my bf quite casually for the past few months. He would give me very little attention. I finally told him how I felt and that I would feel hrrible if he treated me like a fwb. So after voicing out myself, he became more attentive and even made up to me by taking me on a very awesome trip.
It was great and I love how he appreciates me. I do believe in giving my man freedom. Because I appreciate the freedom too. I like attention but too much attention turns me down. I use to bug my bf a lot too but once I thought in his shoe, I got over it. I remember when I met this great looking Italian guy at my college homecomming.
He was standing outside a crappy bar with his friends and he was the only one that was not smoking. I looked at him and I was like wow hes hot. I had to tell him that even if he did not want to hear it so I told him he was really cute. A smile came upon his face and he said the same to me. I started to hang out with him at the bar like I had known him forever.
I learned he grew up in state college and he had a sister that I went to High school with. He was in amazing shape and he was big into sports. We had so much in common and his sense of humor matched mine. We talked til 7am in the morning but after that we went on another date and dated for like two months until one day he decided to never talk to me again. I said why, what did I do, we are having such a great time with each other why would you just walk away.
I learned that he did not have the best relationship with his father and his father was diagnosed with cancer. As much as my heart went out to him and wanted to pray that his father gets better and that he is able to re-establish a great relationship with his father. I also feel he probably thought why would I want a guy with a lower education level than mine but the fact was he was a christian and to me that means more than some education level statues. But the last time I had spoken to him I told him to go for his dreams to be a personal trainer because I can see how he can be an inspiration to a lot of people and per haps someday be a trainer on the biggest loser because he has that kind of ever lasting effect on people.
But in my hopes I wish I could see him again and I am far away from home now and I am dating someone new but still some how I still think of the great times I had with this amazing guy.
Even though the g uy I see now has a PhD and he is much older than me and pays for everything we do besides the fact we argue every day and it takes like nothing to piss him off. I hope someday my paths cross with the italian but if not I hope I meet someone like him because he seemed so perfect to me. We want to know every story, every detail. So basically the takeaway is if a guy shows no interest in your life, your hobbies, what you enjoy, etc.
When we share information about ourselves with someone, we are investing in them. We are inviting them into our world because we see the potential for them to become a part of it. If a guy is into you, he will open up and will peel back that outer layer.
He might not necessarily bring out all the skeletons in his closet to play, but he will share information that is more real. There is a big different between knowing about someone and knowing someone.
Why does he continue asking you out?
Probably because he has nothing else on the horizon and… why not? A guy pulling out the excuses early on is always a bad omen. For all he knows you have a line of guys waiting for their shot with you. If you wanna go out with him again, great. If you start dating someone else, whatever. Looking back on my own extensive dating history, the guys who called when they said they would were the ones who were serious and very into me.
And things never lasted more than three dates with the guys who made me sweat it out. Men are competitive by nature. No guy is gonna let a girl he likes get snatched up by some other dude. He may want to hang out with you, he may want to hook up with you, but that is not the same as being with you. I would definitely recommend this book to any women who may be having issues within a relationship or with the men in their life in general.
Your happiness should be accountable for theirs.