Is it a good idea to date your best friend? Ideally, in a perfect world dating someone who is already your best friend would be the best. You already care about each other and can be yourself with them. However, dating your best friend is not that simple. There are more factors to consider. I have seen it go both ways. Unfortunately, in my experience, I ended up losing that friendship.
One day he would be taking me out on a date and holding my hand and the next day he would be aloof and distant. I finally decided I had had enough.
It was the hardest thing I had to do, because yes, I was in love with him. He had been my best friend and a huge part of my life for over 20 years. He was at every birthday, holiday, there were many late night talks about life, drunk nights out dancing, high school dances.
It was hard to let go of that. I am not trying to make this a cautionary tale but I feel like sharing my experience can help some of you who are struggling with telling your best friend how you really feel.
All you can really do is be honest with yourself. If you love them, there is no changing that. It is hard to move on when you still see the person all the time.
Yes or No? Should I Date My Best Friend?
Him and I may not be best friends anymore but he is still one of my oldest friends. We keep in touch but the dynamic of our relationship and conversations are very different from what they use to be. If am being honest, I to this day still miss my best friend sometimes.
So when you are ready to finally pull the trigger on dating your best friend make sure you are ready to deal with either outcome, the good and the bad.
My advice, go for it! I would still not change anything about what happened in my situation. We all have to be willing to lay our hearts on the line for love or else you will always regret it.
Lauren graduated from Hofstra University with a bachelor's degree in communications and a minor in psychology. She enjoys spinning, crafting, and Saints football.
She is currently getting her teaching credential with hope to inspire future generations.
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