Messages You have no messages. Notifications You have no notifications. I have been on a couple dating sites for a long time now for people who are heavy, but NONE of the men that go there are legit. They are either scammers, fetish types looking for sex only or just bottom feeders altogether. My question is whether I should go to legit sites match. I am an attractive woman, intelligent, great personality and super funny. Delete Report Edit Lock Reported.
I need to respect how we all genuinely find different attributes attractive and how the outcome of that really can be as positive for me as it would be for someone half my size. In my scarred but hopeful heart, I know I need to trust others as much as I have grown to trust myself.
It makes dating really hard for people like me, and it hurts each time. As long as I know how to love, I know I'll survive dating. Jen Kettle is a writer and editor living in London. She is an advocate of plus-size beauty and self love to promote greater equality and diversity. Jen is now working on a project focused on film and fashion. Follow her on Instagram or on Twitter. Shanu Walpita is a London-based trend forecaster and editor with a not-so-secret illustration side-hustle.
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It's Not Personal is an inclusive dating collective and growing anthology. I've never figured out why he carried on seeing me for that long if my size bothered him. It's not like he was blind the first time we met. It's wanking that makes you blind, not being a wanker. And weight isn't a personality flaw that slowly reveals itself after time, like racism or loud chewing.
Why select a croissant, take it home and eat a large portion of it, and then take it back to the shop dissatisfied, because you really wanted a bread stick? Online dating was a minefield for the traditionally built. You could lie outright, or smudge the truth a bit, to give someone the chance to get to know you first, and decide for themselves whether they're OK with a little extra padding.
Or you could go in headfirst and write "Attention all shoppers, I am overweight" in the first line of your profile. But that seems a bad way to start a potential relationship. WooPlus is a British online dating site that specialises in big beautiful women, and big handsome men, and their admirers.
I get what they're doing, but I can't bring myself to believe dating apps like this are the solution. I feel like I'd just be someone's fetish, or marginalised, and that's not what I'm looking for either.
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I'm sure you have some ailment you deal with beyond ignorance.
Why not just go get some implants? Or maybe premature ejaculation? Why not just stop cuming so quick so she can finally be sexually satisfied?
I am overweight should I stick to dating sites for fat girls?
Please, don't go tell anybody, ever, to "just go Many people "just can't Edited on February 28, at If it was insulting, that's on you. YOU were the one who mentioned "fat girls", not me. And no, it's not easy, its very difficult to lose excess pounds.
Getting excess weight is easy.
Not eating excessively is hard. Just agreeing to find someone who likes overweight, overly sensitive females is easy, actually finding one is hard. Blame yourself and fix it yourself.Why He Won't Date a Fat Girl [Secret Relationships]
I know its not easy but if you think its hard now, wait another few years when you're obese and try to lose it then. Have a nice day. You have way more issues than just being overweight If being sick of simple-minded answers to complicated problems is "having way more issues" then, yes, I do.
Zombie Send a private message. Speaking from experience as a fat person in the process of losing weight, attraction or lack thereof comes from your current state not where you'll end up.
Jess Send a private message. Some people have medical conditions preventing them from losing weight see PCOS, Cushings, hypothyroidism, etc. Some have injuries and ailments that prevent them from exercising.
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Some have depression and mental health issues where, much like a heroin addict, food is literally their drug. I believe your reply is an oversimplification. There are often many other factors and the "Hey, put down the fork, fatty" method of "helping" an overweight person is not the most effective, especially if there's a heavy cycle of depression involved in which food is a means to self-medicate, and there are other factors already making weight loss incredibly difficult to begin with.
Just saying, respectfully, that things aren't always as black-and-white as you're painting them out to be ThisGal Send a private message. I'm fit and it's not easy. I make fitness a priority and fight to keep it on my schedule - even if some days it's me having to run at 5AM or 10PM.
I also have to exercise discipline. Meh, sometimes, but when I look in the mirror I can appreciate the work and sacrifice for my looks and health. I agree my response was an oversimplification but this is a message board, not a medical consultation. Also, I agree with you that medical conditions do affect a person's weight but the OP did not post "Due to medical conditions I'm overweight And also, I didn't tell her to "put down the fork, fatty" or even tell her to lose weight.
I asked why not lose the weight? If her response was "medical condition", fine. But she didn't lead me to believe her excess weight was anything she couldn't get a handle on should she decide to.
And no, things aren't always as black and white but seriously We're limited in what we ask and what we can reply. Didn't work that way for you, you mean. People are judged on appearance before anything else enters the equation.
Telling her to work out to become more attractive might work in the long run, but that doesn't mean she shouldn't look for a partner in the present.