You might ask yourself when seeing this title: Yes the Norwegian people also have some codes and mysteries surrounding seduction, and they will all be revealed to you now! I found out that the Norwegian art of seduction is based on three basic principles. The first one is eye contact. You might think, like me, that this guy is looking at you in a strange way. Is he stalking me?
And that is the start of something, I guess. Men will rarely do more than that in their part of the Norwegian seduction process. It is only after some years in Norway that I realised that men do flirt in their own peculiar way in order not to do anything that might invade your private space. So conclusion number one: But sometimes they are even too shy to do that. If so go directly to principle number three: Scandinavian women work for it, whereas we sit there and bat our eyelashes.
They get active and invite men to dance and flirt openly whereas Southern women are taught to do these things subtly and discretely.
You know, with a little style and dignity, not drunk with your fake tan getting off your face like I often saw in the UK. Although I see the benefits of women being like that, it is so foreign that I can only sweep and cry for all the Latin girls who never dare to do such things. Mind you, a few French men I met were offered sudden one night stands by Danish or Norwegian women in bars or parties refused.
They got quite angry of course this is second-hand information, I never experienced it myself. Some men actually like the chasing part, in our part of the world it is that which is called seduction. In more machist societies like France or Italy, such open flirting from a woman will be seen as an invitation for all the men in the neighboorhood. Some men not all of course already flirt heavily when uninvitied, so imagine if you actively seek attention.
What happens to women who grew up in such setting when they end up in Norway? Being used to be seduced for weeks and months by men, with flowers and travels and dreams come true? Well, too bad for you, wink back and get over it.
Norwegian women are fearless. Which is good, I guess, when you think in terms of gender balance, feministic battles etc. Yes I am talking about alcohol. Most would say that the French also drink alcohol, and that is true obviously. A drunk Dane once told me that being half drunk is a waste of money. Some philosophical standpoint to think about. It is 3am and everyone needs to leave because the bar is closing. This is the M moment for Norwegian couples in the making. What comes next is the infamous party-trilogy: Most of the time it ends there, after awkward morning-after-moments: Is this a real moose-head hanging on the wall staring at me?
Then follows days, sometimes weeks of exchanging sms with more smileys than anyone can stand. Do not give even numbers of flowers. A houseplant is well received in the winter months. A bouquet of freshly picked wildflowers is always appreciated. Gifts are opened when received. Dining Etiquette Invitations are generally given verbally.Norwegian Christmas Traditions - Cornelia
Norwegians are punctual in both business and social situations. Confirm the dress code with your hosts. Offer to help the hostess with the preparation or clearing up after a meal is served. Do not discuss business. Norwegians separate their business and personal lives. Table manners are more formal than one might expect of a culture that is informal and egalitarian.
The Norwegian “Art” of Seduction
Hold the fork in the left hand and the knife in the right while eating. Do not begin eating until the hostess starts. Most food, including sandwiches, is eaten with utensils. When you have finished eating, place your knife and fork across your plate with the prongs facing down and the handles facing to the right. The male guest of honour, generally seated to the left of the hostess, thanks the hostess on behalf of the other guests with the phrase "takk for maten" thanks for the meal.
The host makes a small speech and offers the first toast. Women may offer toasts. Toasts are made with alcoholic beverages, but not beer. When someone is being toasted, raise your glass, look at the person, take a sip, look at the person again, and then return the glass to the table. Women must put down their glasses first after a toast. Nonetheless, they prefer to do business with those they trust, so it is important that you provide information about yourself and the company you represent prior to meeting your business colleagues.
Norwegian dating traditions
Relationships develop slowly and depend upon the other person being professional and meeting all agreed upon deadlines. Giving a well-researched presentation indicates that you are serious about conducting business.
The basic business style is relatively informal. Norwegians respect confident, self-assured businesspeople.
They are excellent time managers who do not require face-to-face contact in order to conduct business. If you are like-minded, the relationship will develop over time. Appearing overly friendly at the start of a relationship may be viewed as weakness. Maintaining eye contact while speaking is interpreted as sincerity. Norwegians are direct communicators. They have no difficulty telling their colleagues that they disagree with something that has been said. Their communication is straightforward and relies on facts.
They are conservative and deliberate speakers who do not appreciate being rushed. They are scrupulous about honesty in communication, often to the point of pointing out the negatives in their own proposals in greater detail than the positives. Norwegians are not emotive speakers and their body language is subtle.
Business Meeting Etiquette Appointments are necessary and should be made as far in advance as possible. Appointments may be made in writing or by telephone. If writing, address the letter to the head of the division, even if you do not know the person. Punctuality is imperative since it indicates trustworthiness. If you are delayed even 5 minutes, it is polite to telephone and explain the situation.
Arriving late without prior notice can damage a potential relationship. It is often difficult to schedule meetings during July and August, which are popular vacation times; during the two weeks before and after Christmas; and during the week before and after Easter. Meetings are rather informal. Send an agenda before the meeting so that your Norwegian colleagues can be prepared.
There is not much small talk. Norwegians prefer to get to the business discussion quickly. Presentations should be precise and concrete, and backed up with charts, figures and analysis. Avoid hype or exaggerated claims in your presentation. Norwegians do not interrupt and will save their questions until you have finished speaking.
Negotiating Decisions are consensus driven. Expect decisions to take time as your colleagues must weigh all the alternatives.
Present a firm, realistic, and competitive initial price and expect a minimum of bargaining. Price is often the most important deciding factor. Norwegians do not generally give discounts, even to good customers or for large orders.
Norwegians are detail oriented.