Their down to earth ways prevent the Dutch from getting all caught up in this fuzzy, romantic, somewhat commercial holiday. I hear you thinking: Not wasting time We all know how the Dutch love efficiency; their dating ways are no different. It may be very direct and honest, but at least this way nobody is wasting time. Go for it In America, the UK, and many other countries, there is a certain code or tradition where men are expected to make the first move.
That shows not only your Dutchie cares for you, but also listens to what you say and know what you like! Okay, this is where things get a little tricky.
We are all familiar with the traditional way to go once you have a relationship. If you think you find that right person you genuinely like spending time with, first you go steady, then after couple of years one of you pop the question and then come the marriage, mortgage and a kid or two.
So the movies and books and everyone else around us keep telling. When it comes to the Netherlands and dating things go a little different.
Well, they have decided to skip all that. Marriage is seen as a serious commitment by many of them and should not be taken lightly. So you meet someone?
The relationship going well? How about becoming parents? I once had a friend of mine saying: What if he is a bad father?
We can only imagine. Freedom and individuality is encouraged in the Netherlands. They want to know about these subjects to evaluate if you two are compatible with each other. That actually makes sense, right? Moreover, they will give their opinion whether or not it is pleasing to you, and are direct almost to a fault. What the rest of the world considers as rude or too blunt the Dutch call it honesty and being open.
The Dutch are known for being frugal and often seen as something negative, but why? Dating in the Netherlands is not a piece of Stroopwafel! The Dutch Dating Game. I admit he was vain, he knew it to.
I dont think I had a problem with it really. It was just very strange because im not used to that with Irish boy…they can hardly dress themselves. It was the most unflattering nights out Ive had in a long time.
I saw men looking at me but it was impossible to tell what they were thinking. It was very intimidating. Even when I just chatted to one guy it felt like he was concentrating on looking cool rather than relaxing and having a bit of fun. I would say they definitley look after themselves and have style.
It was very dissapointing and frustrating. I was quite disspointed. They are some of the least graceful moving things in existence. You were either rejected by someone Dutch or have a issue with Dutch people, they are not the most sexy but are at least in the top ten, come on any Europe country has the sexiest people. Beautiful and sexy are two different things and Dutch people are easily the first but rarely the latter, especially the butch women.
The rude, aggressive shady men from north Africa and the Middle East that Amsterdam is so full of… who often automatically think Western, white women are whores, and treat them as such? There are many sexy native Dutch people. They are more than just pretty faces. My experience with Dutch men has been very good thus far.
They are open and decent communicators. And Dutch guys are very much about pleasing a woman in bed. I have lived in different parts of the world, and now live in Amsterdam, and I am pretty please with what I have seen… On a general scale, Dutch men are top-rated for me.
I have travelled many times to the Netherlands over the years, and every time I am still amazed at how sexy, tall, genuine, kind and confident the Dutch men I see and meet are.
And yes, they are generally well-endowed. And they dress so much better than American men, but not over-the-top douchey like many eastern and southern European men.
If they like you, you will know it. If they just want a one-night stand, you will know it, or if they want to get to know you better over time, they will say it. They keep it real. Dutch men, unlike some other cultures, will not assume you are slutty or aggressive if you approach them. They will be pleased, especially if you are from another country.
And if you expect men to pay for you, then chances are you are not a lady, but a little self-entitled girl wanting to be pampered and controlled. I am american and just recently met a dutch man online. He lives in the states now and has a 5 yr old girl. We have instant messaged and done some video chatting. He says he misses me and cant wait to spend the rest of his life with me. Of course he asked how I felt about a daughter.
I love children so that didnt matter to me. He stated his wife passed away a few years ago.
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He really wants to marry me and has already told his daughter about me. She was 1 when her mom passed. I told him he doesnt seem real and that he is really kind with a good heart. Now I am a very cautious women who is very guarded so I dont know what to think about the dutch and their feelings.
Hi Girls, I agree with the Dutch men being mostly handsome I met one that I still remember after years on.. My sister is married to one she seems happy he is nice so I think is a personal vibe..
Well I worked in Holland for 6 months and my impression for Dutch men at first was that were very polite and helpful to me with my suitcases on the trains etc. I found them to be very handsome tall and very good looking…most of them.How NOT to Date - AMSTERDAM
I got to meet one very handsome very sexy but not performing as well as the southern European men. They are very much weird in their sexual preferences and to my experience very perverted. The truth is that are very straight forward not romance not much sensitivity about women feelings.
I met another one lately on internet very handsome!!! Actually I was amazed to see how he was acting and behave in front of the camera acting like a gorilla. The minute he was ready to explode the camera was going off without an excuse.
I think Dutch men are sexually aroused from porno and other things that are not so normal to other nationalities. Are boring men handsome with big penises but not much to offer to women emotionally or other wise.
This is my opinion. Wooooah man I skyped some dutch man as well! Did his username start with a T? Omg, I just knew a dutch man from internet and we skyped too, and his username starts with T too. May I know how to get in touch with you so you can show me his username? I am seeing a Dutch guy He is older though like 44?
Daphne was spot on! And I am from the Netherlands so I should know. There is a lack of passion and personally I prefer non Dutch men at least they know how to court a lady. I him at a club. Now we skype and pm reach other times a week. I have to drag indo or of him about his girlfriend and he makes her sound unimportent and lame.
Kinda a kooky one. I am currently in a relationship with a dutch man and well he is so very polite and thoughtful and he is very good looking! The opposite of vein!! He Loves God and was raised to treat woman with respect! He has to discuss and plan everything we do when I am the exact opposite of him!! He will not spend money for anything and it drives me crazy!!!
He dresses very nice but very casual and I would like to see him in something other than jeans and polos , he is very good in bed so the whole four play thing he has got an a plus for that!! Now we have been seeing eachother sense October and we are still getting to know one another and he is bringing me home to meet his family next month so I hope the best for this trip and relationship and I hope it works out but if not I gave it my all!!
I think a lot of the men are quite good looking, many are good conversationalists but though I am partnered with a Dutch guy, overall I think the manners can also be very bad.
An example…just earlier today I took my dog for a walk and had a huge unleashed pitbull run down the street after my dog. The man who owned that dog hurled abuse at me for walking away. In Amsterdam I find that men think nothing of yelling insults at women and go from zero to fully fledged abusive swearing in seconds. If they gather that you are foreign they will use xenophobic rants quite easily. The way that men and women interact in the Netherlands is very different from my own country.
I met many Dutch people there in the past and whilst on holiday, people were charming,well mannered and decent. I have been to Amsterdam and I met lots of guys, maybe it how you think about, what I know is that Dutch men have a fear of rejection, if you want a Dutch guy approach.
This Dutch guy you were referring to in your comment seems familiar because the words he told you are similar to what my Dutch guy told me too— worked in the states now back in UK, wife died of heart failure, marrying me, having a 5 then now 7 year old daughter who is excited to meet me. Seems unreal to me but so nice and sounded true. He plans to visit me in my country Phils soon. Thought we might be talking of the same guy.
Just curious, is the name Cyril D? I met a Dutch man and he is not like you wrote. He is kind, happy and very attractive. He used to treat me dinner cooked by him.
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Simple and used to wear neat and tidy and very gentle in bed also. Always try to look eyes to and and used to say what he wants. Were you asking if he has a word beginning with A in his username?
I was in Holland for only 2 days, and the Dutch men flirted with me quite a bit. I guess it depends how you look. Simon Woolcot Dating 20 Comments.
The Netherlands is full of expat men, whose confidence has been shattered due to their experiences in attempting to date Dutch women. Women usually appreciate such gestures. Not in the Netherlands! What do I get in return? A similar pattern can be seen in the Dutch dating game. A key thing to know about Dutch women is that they like to hunt in packs.